Jessica Lang, MA Psychology
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist CA
Masters Degree in Psychology-Chapman University 2011
Therapy Online, Only
Session costs 340 NIS
Have you noticed that your self-esteem and confidence have taken a nose dive since you've made aliyah?
Have you experienced childhood trauma or sexual abuse, and your finding it impacting your life today?
Therapy with me is a great place to start in your path to healing.
Many Olim struggle with depression and anxiety their first couple of years here in Israel. You're adjusting to a new country and culture. You sacrificed a lot to move and with limited to no Hebrew speaking skills, your job opportunities and conversations are limited. This leads you to feeling sad, hopeless, and lonely.
For trauma survivors they find that their symptoms are exacerbated as they adjust to their new home. You are not alone, as you try to power through each day, trying not to be affected by your trauma symptoms.
In fact you're finding yourself questioning everything. You question your worth, asking your self "am I good enough" as well as whether you have made the right decision to make aliyah.
As your therapist, who also made aliyah from the states, I understand the up and down challenges that a new life in Israel creates. As you have made changes in the past, you know you can do it again, but maybe you need a little extra support in flushing it all out. As we work together I focus on your individual story and goals. Therapy will highlight your areas of strength and teach you new strategies of coping so you can achieve the goals that you set forth. We will target those areas in your life that are causing the most distress and resolve conflicts that are keeping you stuck.
Your trauma symptoms will be addressed during the course of our therapeutic relationship by using sensory techniques that help you become connected to your body. This connection is important as it allows you to identify your triggers and identify trauma responses that have been learned to protect you, but are in overdrive due to your history of trauma. They lead you to feeling out of control, but by becoming more connected with your body, you can catch yourself before the trauma response completely takes over so you no longer feel out of control.
So here’s some of the things we will do together to get you on the right path.
#1 We move at your pace. Therapy is about building our relationship. This means building trust, which is earned slowly. It will feel scary to open up and share with me but remember that I am here for you. What we discuss is private and stays between us. I am not judging you and there is nothing you could share with me that would shock me.
#2 I will ask you questions. Some of these questions will be used for me to get to know you and your past, so I can better understand the dynamics at play. Other questions will be to used to encourage you to reflect. To think about the patterns you’re engaging in and how they both help and harm you. The goal is to help you break the cycle that is keeping you stuck
#3 We will feel together. The biggest part of healing will be to connect the parts of yourself that you are disconnected from, because of the past abuse. The disconnection helped you in the past because it allowed you to function and survivor the trauma. But now that you’re an adult, out of the environment, the disconnection is keeping you from experiencing love and joy. It will be a scary and uncomfortable feeling at first, but we are going to retrain your sensitized brain to essentially override your instincts to flee, freeze, or fight when it’s triggered (trauma response). At the present moment, anything that reminds your brain of that early trauma will send it in a tailspin to protect itself, so we will be adjusting this thermostat.
We will also laugh and smile together. You will share your wins and successes and together we will celebrate them because you deserve it. I may even say a word wrong or forget a word and together we will laugh at this mistake. Remember it’s about feelings a wide range of emotions, this is what makes us human, and this is what allows you to feel connected.
#4 We will do more than talk. I know when you think about working online you picture only sitting on your computer or tablet and talking. But in order to help you reconnect with all parts of yourself we have to move. There will be times that we drop the computer and talk on the phone and go for a walk. The beauty of walking is that it regulates the body and emotions. Also since sexual abuse and other complex traumas occur as a result of horrible interpersonal experiences your brain will feel less threatened as we talk about those things that trigger you because you don’t have to look at me. (It’s true and it works!) By walking we get to discharge that pennant up unresolved trauma energy, which is stored in the body. It’s often stored in the legs, arms, chest, and also groan area (especially with sexual abuse). We wont only be talking about trauma but also positive memories and experiences. By doing this you’re creating new associations in your body that are more positive not just the pain of trauma.
#4A) Other types of movement that we can do, and it’s again based on your preferences: yoga, self massage, dance, going to the park and swinging on a swing, stretching, and even acting. I am not a certified trauma sensitive yoga instructor, and I would be happy to put you in touch with someone who is because I think they are crucial to helping survivors heal, but we can do some basic movements during our sessions.
#5 Homework. Even though we dive deep in session the work happens outside of session. This is why I will often give you things to do. They will be related to things we discussed in session, and the hope is that you practice trying new things that will help you feel more connected to yourself and others. I often assign journaling, affiirmations, gratitudes, helping you identify and practice using boundaries (including saying no), exercise, etc. These things will help boost your self-esteem and self worth, which is part of self love and self care. The sky’s the limit and it’s all based on what is right for you. Some things will work, and some things wont. That’s ok it’s all part of the process.
Rates for Olim
There are two parts to getting started with me.
#2 The intake session does not constitute a contract for ongoing therapy it merely determines what your needs are and if we would be a good fit together. During this 90 minutes I will take your history, you will tell me what you want and what your goals for therapy are, and create a way to measure success on these goals. This will also be your chance to ask me questions and get to know more about me and my practice. By the end of the 90 minutes we will determine if we will continue to work together.
Continuation of Services
After our 90 minute intake, which is done online, we will schedule a session the following week. I will email you the opening paperwork which you must sign and complete prior to our first session.
Sessions are conducted weekly in the beginning and after time, as we move closer to termination due to your progress, we begin to decrease sessions from once a week to twice a month then once a month for maintenance. How long these steps last is based on the individual but therapy typically lasts a minimum of 1 year.
The standard fee per session is 340 shekels, and is paid at the time services are rendered. There are many options you can use to pay for each session. These include paying directly using a debit/credit card, check, or cash.
Reduced Fee Sessions:
Yes therapy can be an expensive investment in your health and well being. I know that money can be a barrier for many this is why I offer a limited number of space for clients at a reduced fee. This is at a first come first serve basis, so please contact me by email or phone-058-496-6792 if you would like to learn more
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