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4 Tips to Stop Child Sexual Abuse From Continuing and Surviving Being Stuck With Your Abuser

By Jessica Lang

This is for you, the person who is currently surviving sexual abuse being perpetrated against you, at this moment. I know you are feeling afraid to disclose, fear that others will blame, shame and/or judge you, and feeling all alone in your pain.  The sexual abuse of a child, has sadly, been a problem in…

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How Covid-19 May Increase the Incidents of Child Sexual Abuse and 4 Ways You Can Protect Your Child

By Jessica Lang

[Trigger Warning in this Post] [In this blog I talk about child sexual abuse and what draws the abuser in, so please be advised before reading it] How Covid-19 May Increase the Incidents of Child Sexual Abuse and 4 Ways You Can Protect Your Child The Corona Virus or Covid-19 has up ended all of…

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How Sexual Abuse Wires The Toddler Brain and What You Can Do About It

By Jessica Lang

This is blog number 2 in a 5 part series Child Sexual Abuse Effects Child sexual abuse is a major reality that affects 1 in 5 girls, and 1 in 7 boys, every year. Abusers are often people the child knows, a parent, caregiver, religious/spiritual figure, and/or even other children/teens. They can really truly be…

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How Child Sexual Abuse Impacts the Developing Brain 

By Jessica Lang
child sexual abuse and the developing brain

How Child Sexual Abuse Impacts the Developing Brain  (part 1 in a 5 part series) We all know that sexual abuse has lasting effects on the person who was abused. This often shows up as chronic feelings of low self-esteem, shame, anxiety, depression, and more. But what is not talked about as much is how…

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4 Steps to Help You Heal From Disorganized Attachment Style So That You Can Feel Securely Attached In Your Relationships

By Jessica Lang
Disorganized attachment unhealed fear

Part 4 of 4 of a series diving deep into the Attachment Bond, What It Looks Like and What Type of Attachment Style You Might Have Having a Disorganized Attachment style is very painful and lonely. For many who struggle with this type of attachment style they often desire connection with others but this connection…

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4 Tips for Healing From Your Anxious-Ambivalent Attachment So You Can Find Peace, Relief, and Joy in Your Relationships

By Jessica Lang
Anxious-ambivalent attachment

Anxious-Ambivalent  Attachment Anxious-Ambivalent attachment is a common type of insecure attachment were the individuals natural drive for connection is fueled by anxiety and fear. They feel fear that the object of their attachment is going to abandon them, and this causes anxiety. Individuals with an anxious-ambivalent attachment style are constantly striving for the attention of…

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3 Tips on Repairing Avoidant Attachment Style So You Can Have A Long, Healthy, & Connected Relationship with Others

By Jessica Lang

Part 2 of 4 of a series diving deep into the Attachment Bond, What It Looks Like and What Type of Attachment Style Do You Have Attachment is the foundation of everything. Of how we see ourselves and how we see others. There are two main types of Attachment, Secure and Insecure. Last week I…

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3 Tips to Developing Secure Attachment Between You and Your Baby. Part 1 of 4 of a series diving deep into the Attachment Bond, What It Looks Like and What Type of Attachment Style Do You Have

By Jessica Lang

Attachment is an innate drive that we are all born with just like the drive for self protection. As babies, we are completely dependent on our caregivers for self protection as well as to satisfy our other basic survival needs (shelter, food, etc). Our attachment bond is directly connected with our survival. Attachment is the…

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Multigenerational Trauma and Attachment: A type of Relational Trauma that is Often Passed Down Generation After Generation Unintentionally Part 1

By Jessica Lang
attachment and multigenerational trauma

Multigenerational Trauma and Attachment:  A type of Relational Trauma that is Often Passed Down Generation After Generation, Unintentionally  Part 1 We all know that childhood trauma can have lasting impacts, especially if this trauma goes unresolved. The symptoms of PTSD and other chronic stressors take a toll on our physical, emotional, and cognitive selves. Traumas…

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New Beginnings: 5 Steps to Starting Over After Experiencing Failure

By Jessica Lang
Jessica Lang, LMFT blog on overcoming failure

New beginnings, a chance to start over when we’ve experienced failure. We all go through things in life, good and bad, that force us to stop in our tracks and re-evaluate our lives. We may plan and plan and plan for something but just because we plan doesn’t mean that things will work out. This…

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