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Why We Should Forgive and 10 Steps On How To Forgive Ourselves

By Jessica Lang

Forgiveness is a loaded word, and can even be triggering, especially as forgiveness has been weaponized against survivors of abuse. Many religions discuss the importance of forgiveness. They discuss it as if it’s a must in order to be accepted into heaven or to be right with a higher power. For others to forgive someone…

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Transgenerational Trauma and Attachment: What are These Two Things and How Do They Fit Together?

By Jessica Lang

Part 1 We all know that childhood trauma can have lasting impacts, especially if this trauma goes unresolved. The symptoms of PTSD and other chronic stressors take a toll on our physical, emotional, and cognitive selves. Traumas can be single incident traumas, such as a car accident, or complex trauma, such as ongoing child abuse…

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Feelings of Abandonment Causing Problems in Your Relationships: How Anxious Attachment and Other Traumas Make You Fear Being Alone and 5 Tips to Overcome This

By Jessica Lang

There is a hollow feeling that comes when you feel like you’ve been abandoned. A tension or tightness in the chest or stomach may constantly linger when you are with others but when they leave, and you are alone, the hollow feeling comes right in. You don’t know which is worse, the ever present tension…

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Coping With The Postpartum Period: Understanding Postpartum Depression, Anxiety, and 5 Tips For Adjusting During This New Time

By Jessica Lang

So being a new mom is not turning out like you thought it would. Oh sure when you were pregnant you heard from friends, family, and even strangers on the parenting forums that being a mom was incredibly difficult. You told yourself you would be able to handle whatever came your way and maybe you…

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The Sexualization Of Children and How This Can Impact Your Child Sexual Abuse Survivor: 4 Tips To Help Them Stop Blaming Themselves For The Sexual Abuse They Endured

By Jessica Lang

The sexualization of children is not the same as child sexual abuse and yet the lasting impacts can be just as pervasive. When we sexualize children we place them in adult roles, as opposed to seeing them as children. The sexualization of children refers to placing adult attributes on a child’s body and then assigning…

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The Problem with the Sexualization of Girls and 3 Tips to Help Your Girls Love Their Body

By Jessica Lang
sexualization of girls

The Sexualization of females often begins when they are babies. This sexualization can, and often does, have the lasting impacts of making girls and women feel a lot of shame around their bodies and fear of men. Sexualization is not the same as sexual abuse, where someone is forcing/coercing a child (or someone whose considerably…

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How Child Sexual Abuse Impacts the Developing Brain and the 6 Steps You Can Take To Help Your Teen Heal From Sexual Abuse

By Jessica Lang

How Child Sexual Abuse Impacts the Developing Brain  (part 4 in a 5 part series)   Child sexual abuse doesn’t only impact your child when it happens but can impact her into her teen years. Often times as children enter puberty old symptoms and behaviors begin to re-emerge, even if the child has had therapy…

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Out of Network Benefits

By Jessica Lang

Out of Network Benefits Form Jesica Lang, LMFT lic #87402 415-496-6792 Instructions: This is a worksheet to help you determine if your insurance will reimburse you for seeing a therapist who is out-of-network. 1) Check the back of your card and call your insurance company. Here are some questions you can ask your provider: A)…

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How Child Sexual Abuse Impacts the Developing Brain During Middle Childhood (ages 6-12 years old) 

By Jessica Lang
impacts of sexual abuse on. brain development

How Child Sexual Abuse Impacts the Developing Brain During Middle Childhood (ages 6-12 years old)  (part 3 in a 5 part series) Children who have been sexually abused are typically abused by someone they know. Whether it’s a parent, grandparent, babysitter, family friend or someone else close to the family, this type of trauma has…

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Grooming Behaviors That Online Predators Use and 3 Steps You Can Take To Protect Your Child or Teen

By Jessica Lang

Predators use manipulation in order to gain the trust of their targets. These manipulation tactics are globally known as grooming behaviors. Grooming behaviors are designed to make the target of the abuse feel “special”, build trust, and have access to the target fairly easily. Most people who sexually abuse children, use children that they know…

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